子供たちは中間試験が迫っている。が、焦りが全然見えない。で、かあちゃんのほうが焦っている！
特に次男は天然のADHDで、勉強なんてなーんちゃないらしく、さっきも静かだと思ったら、部屋でゲームしてたらしい。信じられへーん。
他人さまの子なら笑えることも、我が子となると、ことが違う。特に私がこの子に何かを教えてあげらえる時間に限りがあるとしたら、という思いがあればなおさら。
今の私にできることはなんなんだろう、そう思いながらいつも子供たちの顔を見ている。
Kids will have mid-term exams in a couple of days. Yikes. But they seem to think otherwise, esp. my younger one - the one with ADHD. The closest description I can give him would be "a man from mars". Not that kind he cant understand women (well, maybe that too), but rather, he speaks and behaves just like ones from another planet. Needless to say, where he came from does not have a pressure of school exams!
Do I need to press him to study harder? Do I convince him how important that he works hard at this point of his life? Do I sit down right next to him for hours going through his messy copies of school work and figure out what he is supposed to study for his exams?
Been there, done that. And none of those worked. And plus I suck at all of the above. And when I do these, I have a mixed bag of feelings - from anger and frustration to desperation and worries.
The worry part has not changed before and after the diagnosis of my NET cancer, but I think I can say that I look at this challenge of school work from different perspectives - what can I do now so he won't suffer when I am gone?
I suppose I could say that he needs to be trained to study/work independently, or to have better organizing skills. Not necessarily scoring better at school exams, because we all know school grades really do not add up much when you leave school. But what we sure do need is survival skills and strategies to live in complicated fast-speed society. That is complicated skills to teach, and it takes a whole human life to learn/teach it. As far as I am concerned, there is now a new unknown factor, which is no one knows how much longer I will be around. So I might as well put my head down and teach him all those survival skills while we are still together.
Easier said than done. And my worry still remains the same - with or without my NET cancer and/or my son's ADHD. Welcome to the parenting club.
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